So, it's been almost 3 years and my brother and his family had been living w/ my parents. I too lived with my parents, to save money to buy a home and going to school at the moment, but I always have a job and help out with the mortgage. Long story short, knowing that they are broke and everyone around them trying to advise them to save money, they continuously go out and buy lunch/dinner instead of eating free food at home. They continously go and buy things like laptops, even a new car which they claim they ';need'; but they don't, because it only get driven once a month.
In addition, they are spending $1500 a month to pay for my niece's school for special children. She has Di-Cru-Chat, so teaching her to talk and learn is difficult. Despite how expensive school is and that she needs it, my brother and his wife sometimes do not take her to school stating, ';Oh she woke up at 5 am so I'm letting her sleep in tonight.'; There is no bedtime for my niece, btw, it's whenever they felt she should go to bed which is around 11 p.m. or even 12 p.m.
My sis in law doesn't work. She used to have a small part-time working at home for 4 hours a day, a chinese interpreter. She quit that job after she had another baby. Which btw, if you have no money, why would you try to have another baby? Anyways, the baby is almost 5 or 6 months. She constantly has to be around the baby, sleeping with her, carrying her EVERYWHERE in the house. She refuse to work stating she needs to be there all the time for the baby. The interpreting job will take her back, and she is allowed a break during work, but she refuse to do it because of the baby.
Now my brother is jobless. They're both jobless, they're both always saying they're broke and can't move out. They are leaving lights on in the house, already destroyed the bathroom allowing mold to grow in the walls (btw, they didn't pay my parents back for the repair, not even one penny), and even at home doing NOTHING, is too lazy to teach my other niece that needs attention to learn to read and communicate. They spend their whole day either sleeping or watching youtube, or go out buying food or to the mall. What's even worse, they even tried to convince my parents to move swap rooms (they are living in the garage right now, it's pretty big though and has its own a/c), because they felt it's too dusty for the baby. The baby is fine and is not sick, they just NEVER take the baby outside the home with excuses like ';oh it's too hot today'; or ';it's going to be much fuss.'; How dare they ask my parents, who saved their *** from living in the streets, to live in the garage.
I tried talking to my parents, but they strongly believe in family morale. I want to move out so bad because this is what I have to deal with everyday, knowing they are taking advantage of my parents and for years to come, showing no signs of being responsible. What should I do? Fyi, as soon as I move out, they are planning to take over my room. I am staying also just to keep them from taking over completely.
**I'm sorry this is so long. It's a LONG story.. you will be surprised of some of the things they are doing would piss you off too, like fraud to get more money from the government. In addition, they believe my cat is ';dirty'; and makes people ill. They are trying to get rid of my cat because they don't like him.How do you ';intervene'; freeloading, lazy relatives?
This sounds so much like my boyfriend's brother and his wife. They don't free load on his mom [she's a huge free-loader though], but they buy what they can't afford and are renting the house from the wife's family but not paying the bills and are basically trashy people, hate the cat [mainly because my boyfriend loves it], and all that jazz.
Anyway, getting to my answer, I don't think at this point, you can do much to stop them. I'd suggest locking yourself in your room and just focusing on you and the cat [I'm sure your parents wouldn't give it away since you said they're into the whole family thing]. When you get older and graduate from college, you'll do better than them and get farther. That will be punishment for them enough, and when you can, cut yourself off from your brother and his family except for maybe the little girl. I'd say, try to help her with her speech, since you're rather powerless at this stage. Help your parents as much as possible and ignore the free-loaders as best you can, though I know it will be very difficult since it angers you. Stay away from them and learn how never to become. Good luck, I know your situation. It's frustrating. Keep up with school and you'll be fine and a million times better than them later. That's the sweetest revenge =3How do you ';intervene'; freeloading, lazy relatives?
This is the most judgmental question I've ever read.
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