Possible divorce in the Commonwealth of VA, what can I expect? Legal advise please.?

My wife has clinical depression. She was on meds. For it, but for some unknown reason her Dr. asked her to cut back to every other day. Now she is clearly miserable. We have not had a conversation in 4 months. Just straight simple yes or no answers. I have tried to talk to her about talking to her Dr. about this but she insists that its not a problem with the medicine. She has told me that she doesn’t think that she wants to be married anymore. She does not talk to me nor does she want to do anything at all together. Take walks, sit beside me, or even call during the day. She has lost all patients with our two children as well. Now don’t get me wrong, she loves the kids, but she does have her moments of ranting and yelling at them. Everyone, even her mother has noticed this change in her, but no one knows what to do. She refuses to discuss it. If you ask her what’s wrong, you just get a short, bitter, “nothing:”



I love her with all that I am, in a week it would be our 11th anniversary. I had bought special tickets and planed a night out just for this way back months ago, but now she does not want to go at all.



I have told her I love her, and that I will stand by her no matter what, or how long she is in this state, but I really don’t think she cares at all anymore.



Our first home, I bought with money I had before we were married. Our current home I paid cash for, by selling the home I had before we ever met.



I pay all of the house hold bills, everything. She makes a bit more than me, but her payday has always gone to pay for her SUV. She does pay for the daycare bill which is about $300.00 a month. The rest is hers to keep. I buy all groceries, pay all of the insurance, utilities and everything else.



I love her with all my heart, and seeing her so unhappy all the time is tearing me apart, but I don’t see that there is anything that I can do to help her. I expect at some point soon, she will tell me it is over. I don’t want to lose my home or my children. She is the one ‘unhappy’ with everything, not me. I know that most of the time, the women gets the kids, house and everything else. I am now certain she is having an affair. But proving that is not that easy, I have the phone bills that show the constant calls but I know I need more.



Does anyone have any real knowledge of how the laws work in VA? My life has turned into a living hell, to lose my kids, because ‘she’s not happy anymore’ would finish me off.Possible divorce in the Commonwealth of VA, what can I expect? Legal advise please.?
this is horrible! I truely am sorry for your loss and this sounds like a really hard time in your life. I think if you went to court and filed for custody of your children you would probly get them because you sound like the more stable parent and care giver. I hope everything works out for the best goodluck!Possible divorce in the Commonwealth of VA, what can I expect? Legal advise please.?
i live in oregon so im not really sure.you should speak to someone whos been through a divorce in your area. usually the mother does get the kids but as long as you dont do drugs and you have a good job you should be able to get them half the time. she may want you to have them half the time. only real bitches try to have full custody over the kids but if theres no reason for it the judge probley will not let her take them away from you. and as far as the house......alot of the time if the wife hasnt worked and hasnt been paying the bills for the whole time that your married then sometimes yes they do get the house and alimony because you've supported them for there whole lives and know its to late for them to support themselves but since that isnt the case then you should be able to keep the house your self especally since she makes plenty of money on her own.but is the house in both hers and your name? if it is then even if she hasnt payed for it then she may be able to get it. if not then i dont see how she would get it. worst senario you'd have to sell the house and split the money.

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