Why is our new home giving me anxiety attacks?

My husband %26amp; I just bought our first home 3 months ago. We looked at about 100 houses over a 2 year span. We either couldn't agree on a house, the location, or it was just too much money. Finally this year we found our home. It is in a nice area and in a desireable location. We even got it way below the appraised value due to the economy. I LOVED the house when I first saw it and was so happy when our offer was accepted. But, the first week after we moved in......things changed. I started having severe anxiety attacks which were so bad I had to be taken to the emergency room. I have noticed things wrong with the house that I didn't even think about when we first saw it. I am a perfectionist and I do not know why or how I couldn't of possibly seen all the things that needed to be done to this house before we bought it. My parents don't really like the house and that is just adding to my anxiety. I know what they think shouldn't matter but, for some strange reason it does? My husband is such a wonderful person! He likes this house but, he says we have to live here for 5 years and if I still don't like it, we then can move. I do know there is no such thing as the perfect house. And, this all comes along with owning a home. But, I just cannot understand why this house and all of it's flaws are making me so sick? Has anyone been in this situation? Will I get used to this house and will it eventually feel like home?Why is our new home giving me anxiety attacks?
its not your new home actually maybe its a safety issue? Do you feel safe in your new home with all its flaws.Fixing the flaws might ease your anxiety cause fixing things will keep your mind occupied eventually your anxiety attacks may subside. don't lose hope you will feel better.Why is our new home giving me anxiety attacks?
just wanted to say that i've never been in that particular situation, but a similar one. i started having panic attacks one day (out of nowhere, it seemed) when i was driving. and when my 2 sisters bought new houses, i had them in their new houses. there was a point where i truly felt horrible everywhere except my own house. i pressed on though, and they eventually went away. now i only have a panic attack or two when i am driving (and usually only in a very busy intersection... yes, it totally sucks, panic attacks are horrible.) it has taken me more than 7 years (without psych meds) to get to an almost normal functioning level again. however, there are places i absolutely avoid (elevators in skyscrapers, etc.) i have benzodiazepines (xanax etc) for emergencies but i almost never use them. but i can sympathize with your situation and from my point i can understand it. i would tell you to just press on and try to make the best of it. if i can ';get over'; something like this, i bet anyone can. perhaps your home will eventually feel ';homey'; to you. if not, really... don't feel bad about going and finding a good, smart, sympathetic anxiety specialist.
You may be having a bad case of buyer's remorse. Many people experience doubt and fear after making a major purchase, though your symptoms are pretty extreme.



You invested a lot of time house hunting, your expectations were too high, now they are colliding with reality, you may have concerns about paying your mortgage related to the economic crisis, and this is collectively overwhelming you.



Try to focus on the positive. What do you like about the house? What are your plans for the future there? Do you want to have children there? Look at the house as a place to live, rather than as an investment or a ';museum piece'; that must be kept perfect, and you may start to feel better. It just isn't worth working yourself up over.